MEN || What is Your Selling Point?
I see many men on social media today parading what they have made their selling point: handsome face, beard, haircut, biceps, six pack abs, material things (car, wrist-watch, money, electronic gadgets, etc), some with the hope of getting customers to flirt with and others with the hope of getting customers to marry.
Side note: Your selling point is the UNIQUE thing about you that makes you attractive and appealing to people.
If you have made any of these things above your selling point with which you attract women to yourself and some day they cease being appealing or they suddenly vanish or fade off, what would become of your self-esteem, self-value, self-love, and self-confidence?
Making one of those common things your selling point will honestly not attract the right kind of women to you. It'll simply attract women who have conditional love to give you: their love for you will be based on the presence or absence of the selling point you used to attract them to yourself -they'll love you as long as your selling point is still present, the moment your selling point becomes absent, their love equally becomes absent. This is one of the major causes of divorce, separation, and unfaithfulness in marriage. You attracted her with your six-pack abs, now you have a pot belly; she no longer finds you attractive and is now cheating on you with guys with six-pack abs. You seduced her with money, now you're poor and broke, she no longer loves you and has left you for another rich guy. You enthralled her with your biceps, you got terribly sick and lost them, now she complains about everything you do to make her happy because she is no longer attracted to you. You enticed her with your handsome face and fine figure, now you're no longer as handsome and nice-looking as you were when she met you, your presence now irritates her.
So, young man, to avoid losing her to another nice-looking man, you better don't get an accident that will deface you. You better don't get a terminal disease like cancer, AIDS, that will disfigure any part of your body, especially that nice haircut, handsome face and nice figure or she is gone.
Like I told the ladies in my previous blog post, if your selling point is your biceps and six pack abs, you better maintain it for as long as you're married to that lady who got hooked to you because of them, otherwise you'll lose her to another hunky guy. If your selling point is your handsome face and fine figure, you better maintain it unless she is gone to be with a more handsome man. And if it's your riches, you better remain rich forever if you want that woman to stay with you for life. But unfortunately, the reality is nature will always take its course. You cannot maintain your youthful look forever. As you're getting older, you're looking older and changing drastically. This is why you cannot afford to make fleeting, ephemeral things like riches, biceps, six pack, haircut, beards, handsome face, fine figure, material possessions, your selling point because they're highly susceptible to change. No wonder Proverbs 11:28 says this about riches "Trust in your money and down you go! But the godly flourish like leaves in spring." and 1 Timothy 6:17 also says "Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is uncertain. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment." The Scripture also says this about beauty "Charm can be deceiving, and beauty fades away,.." Proverbs 31:30a
For this reason, you need something that is not susceptible to change- something that is enduring and lasting- as your selling point. Godly character and the fear of God is what you need. The presence of these two preserved the life of Joseph, even his marriage. The absence of these two destroyed the life of handsome, hunky Samson; his marriage is not even worthy of emulation. These two virtues are non-depreciating assets that is profitable, valuable, and brings durable returns which your children and your children's children will benefit from.
Conclusively, a woman you attract with these two stays with you for life because she loves you unconditionally. No matter what happens to you externally or to your physical body, she stays with you.
Is there any possession of worth (tangible or intangible) that you always strive to show people? Is there any body part you often purposely show off in public in an effort to look attractive to people, women especially? It could be what you have made your selling point. Wise men are few; foolish men are plenty. Which class do you belong?