SCHOOL FUN ~ Precious Victor Akah

When I was in Secondary School, it was a "normal" thing to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, infact, it was expected. So if you do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you're seen as a "baby", an immature or naive person, or viewed as someone from another planet who is not in touch with the world or with reality. You're often mocked and ridiculed and even excluded from "adult gossips/conversations".

You're encouraged or pressurized by your peers to have a boyfriend/girlfriend because it is perceived to be one of the "fun" things you're supposed to experience while in school. It was for fun, nothing else, according to them.

Now when you hear the stories of your older siblings and friends who had boyfriends and girlfriends during their Secondary School days, and their present lives seem not to have been negatively affected by any of those romantic affairs they had in school (none of them got pregnant while in school, none of them impregnated a girl...) you're tempted to give in to the peer pressure to have this so-called "fun" - believing that it is truly harmless.

Hmm! But what you're not aware of is that, some of them only enjoyed the mercies of God because they were either ignorant, or they were covenant children, or their godly parents continuously interceded for them in prayers - covering their destiny and lives with the Blood of Jesus and warring against the destruction of their lives and glorious future; I am one of such people who enjoyed the mercies of God.

I did things that a lot of teenagers did and would do today and not go unharmed. I went to places that some went to and would go today and not come back untouched, because I enjoyed God's mercies. I was a covenant child, whom God saved at the right time. So the question (before you start messing up) is, how sure are you that you'll enjoy God's mercies, or how certain are you that there is a spiritual covering over your life because you have been dedicated to God or you have godly, prayerful, caring parents? Even if you're certain of this, it is still not a license for you to live careless, remember, you are now in the know, you cannot claim ignorance before God.

So when they tell you it is not a big deal to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, be very careful. Whatever has the power to alter the course of your life forever and to truncate your academic pursuit is really a big deal. You might have been told, "Don't mind what people say, just enjoy your school days; if you get pregnant, you can abort the pregnancy and continue your academics, or if you impregnate a girl, you should deny the girl and the pregnancy and move on with your life... just have fun." Hmm!

Do you honestly think that doing any of such does not come with a price? You would be foolish to think that it doesn't come with a cost. Of course it comes with a price. Some teen girls could not live to tell their story because they died while having an abortion or even during child birth; some teen boys didn't also get a chance to share their story because the embittered girl they impregnated, broke her heart and abandoned later took revenge on them by killing them or poisoning them out of deep sorrow and brokenness.

More so, so many men are struggling in life today because of a verbal curse laid on them by the girl they impregnated and abandoned, or by the demonic incantations made on their life by a witch doctor the girl they jilted after several abortions sought revenge from. Terrible things are happening in this world. Your heart is still tender and there are so many things about life you're yet to know, so having a boyfriend/girlfriend is more than fun, it is a serious thing you should not toy with. Some ladies can't conceive after marriage due to countless abortions they had in their school days. Some are dealing with other problems like the inability to be satisfied sexually by their husband, because of the numerous sexual encounters they had in school with different boys. 

The price is too great to bear, I must sincerely tell you, and you cannot escape it. You might be able to escape some by giving your life to Christ, but some would stay with you for life. Because the Law of God states that whatsoever a man sows, he will reap in return (Galatians 6:7). Whatever you're sowing now, you'll surely reap, sooner or later in the future. If you're sowing 'careless living' today, the harvest is waiting for you in the future; and if you're sowing 'godly living', the harvest is waiting ahead of you.

The Bible says, do not awaken love until the time is right (Song of Solomon 8:4). You have no business engaging in the so-called fun of having boyfriends and girlfriends. You might say, "I won't get involved in anything sexual with the boy or the girl, I just want to avoid being mocked by my friends and classmates." Well, I can guarantee you that a lot of young people said that too, but guess what, when they started the relationship, the relationship took over them. Once you ignite the fire, it'll burn and become uncontrollable because you'll be compelled to keep fueling the fire. The moment you decide to call someone your boyfriend or your girlfriend, the next thing that follows is the pressure or expectations to start having non-sexual romantic activities. 

Your friends would ask you, "Have you kissed her? Have you kissed him? What are you waiting for? Kissing is sweet. There is no harm in it. You're missing a lot. Kiss her and touch her and you'll be in paradise." Then you would decide to give it a trial since it's just a "harmless kiss" and you're not having sex. After kissing him or her, the devil will again speak to you through your carnal friends, "Now that you have kissed her/him, did you not enjoy it? Was it not pleasurable? Now, you need to have the real pleasure: sex." They'll tell you how sweet and pleasurable sex is and how you'll protect yourself by using condom, and eventually convince you to have pre-marital sex with your girlfriend/boyfriend. And boom, you're swimming in the pool of sexual immorality. Beware!

You're in school to study and learn what you do not know, which will be useful to you in building and molding your glorious future. So, face your academics. And more importantly, if you do not have a real, personal relationship with God - where you have a personal knowledge of God and maintain active fellowship with the Holy Spirit, you may not be able to withstand/resist the peer pressure to engage in school romantic affairs in the long run. Therefore, it is very important that you make up your mind now to serve God with your whole life. Dedicate your life to Christ. Start a relationship with God and maintain close fellowship with the Holy Spirit. This is what will help you successfully overcome the pressure from your peers to do what you should not be doing now.

Even when you graduate from Secondary School and gain admission into a tertiary institution (university), you must also be resolute and unswerving when men start rushing you to ask for a romantic relationship and when ladies start throwing themselves at you for a romantic relationship. Stay focused. You must be very careful not to let down your guard or pull down your wall of protection. Face what you went to school to do. Then when you're fully ready for marriage, seek the face of God for His will for you in marriage.

Receive grace and strength to do the right thing even when everyone else around you is doing the wrong thing. May the Lord keep helping you and may the Holy Spirit endue you with enough wisdom needed to navigate through your school days unharmed, unhurt and unscathed.

God bless you.

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